Most people struggle with getting out of a warm bed in the morning. We’re comfy, sleepy, and want to stay in our cocoon. We don’t want to face the cold world – especially when the reason we’re getting up is for work or school. It’s against human nature to intentionally make ourselves feel discomfort.
We resign ourselves to a life of “not being a morning person.” Then we snooze the alarm and roll over into a state of half sleep. Hours later, as we sit at our desk contemplating the morning, we think, “if only I just had the motivation to get out of that bed!” What we don’t realize is that the quickest way to get morning motivation to get out of bed is to understand that motivation is useless. Stop relying on motivation.
Wait! What?!? Motivation is useless?
Yeah, I said it.
Motivation, especially the morning variety, is a two-faced monster… A wolf in sheep’s clothing… Pick whatever metaphor you want, but it doesn’t matter what you call it. It’s still useless.
It’s inspiring and powerful the night before when you tell yourself you’re going to get your lazy self out of bed at 6AM and get an early start on the day.
Then 6AM rolls around and what usually happens? Yeah, that’s right. You talk yourself out of getting up. Just 5 more minutes… Then 10 minutes… Then you’re late. Again.
When 6AM rolls around, that motivation that got you so psyched and ready to conquer the world last night is nowhere to be found. I guess morning motivation isn’t a morning person…
What to Do If You Have No Motivation to Get Out of Bed
First of all, before I offer a suggestion about what to do, can we just stop using the word motivation and getting out of bed in the same sentence? The two really couldn’t be more opposite.
Actually, I already told you the first step of knowing what to do when you have no motivation to get out of bed. The first step was acknowledging the uselessness of motivation and ceasing to rely on it.
The reality is that we don’t want to get out of bed or “lack motivation” for a variety of very real reasons. Not all of us are simply throwing a silent temper tantrum in our heads. Some of us have real conditions like depression or anxiety (or both) and if that’s the case, you should definitely seek treatment. However, what I’m about to tell you might still help you even if you have depression, anxiety, or any other condition.
The second step is to trick your brain at 6AM. Don’t allow your brain to think when the alarm goes off. Thinking is what makes you hesitate and stay in bed. Use the alarm as a trigger to use Mel Robbins’ 5 Second Rule.
Literally count backward from 5. 5-4-3-2-1 and then sit up, swing your feet over the side of the bed, put your feet on the floor, and get up! Don’t think about it. Just do it.
Just like with the method I used to develop my gym habit, triggers offer a guided hand that will always be there for you when you need them – unlike motivation. Habit triggers break the cycle of thinking and cause you to just act. This is exactly what you need when creating a habit of getting up early every day.
In my opinion, an early rising habit is one of the most difficult habits to establish. At least that’s been true in my life so far. I used to be horrible about getting up in the morning at a decent hour because of persistent insomnia.
Trust me, you’re not alone if insomnia is something you struggle with right now. You can read this post about how to sleep fast where I touch on my struggle with insomnia and some tips that helped me cure it and fall asleep faster.
Mel Robbins and the 5 Second Rule
Mel and her 5 Second Rule is a life changer. It seems so simple (count backward from 5 and immediately get up), but that’s what makes it work. We don’t give our brain an opportunity to talk ourselves out of doing what we want to do (or what we said we wanted to do the night before.) 🙂
Even though the technique is simple and something anyone can do, Mel backs it up with plenty of science in her freaking awesome book The 5 Second Rule that is cheapest on Amazon at this link if you’re interested in changing your life. There are very few books of this caliber that I feel comfortable recommending. Hands down, this is a must read (or must listen if you get the audiobook version.)
FYI: Since I’m such an avid fan of Mel’s, I have a blog post where I compiled 99 of my favorite Mel Robbins quotes that you might enjoy.
My Final Advice About Morning Motivation to Get Out of Bed
Throw motivation in the trash where it belongs – especially when it’s related to getting up in the morning. Motivation is inconsistent, unreliable, and unrealistic. You can’t motivate yourself to do anything – including getting out of bed earlier. You have to set up a system (such as counting backward from 5) to get yourself up before your brain kicks in with its lazy, destructive, groggy thoughts.
Your brain is great for the latter parts of the day when it’s awake and at its best, but don’t trust your brain first thing in the morning because it will let you down every time.